In speaking to Mark, the Partick Thistle and Hibernian Girls Chaplain, and watching the above video inspired me to write this blog.
When working with people in psychology, I always try to get clients to identify what they are good at. Usually with performance psychology, they know what they are good at...the sport they play. It is my job to get them to reach their potential by using various mental skills. Nevertheless, with general psychology, usually confidence is an issue and people lack direction.
Thinking back to being at school, and most likely if you were academic, then you would feel confident when it comes to your 'intelligence'. However, if maths and English were not your strong point, then you may have claimed yourself as a dummy. I think back to my school and this was pretty much true.
Being a genius is not just if you are book smart and good at your maths and English. As Mark said, "everyone is a genius, you just have to find out of what". In agreeance, I reflected and said there should be more emphasis put on certain occupations such a hair dressers and beauticians. People in these fields are incredible to me. First of all, they are artists. Being able to work out what hair would suit someone (needs analysis), what style (design), how to do it (hands on styling) and then the many tasks that go into making that person feel good. And most importantly, the ability to have small talk all day with people. Hairdressers are like counselors. They have to work out if a person feels like chatting, what they can chat about and how to make someone feel comfortable. My sister has been a hairdresser for many years and it's incredible how quickly she can build a rapport with the wee old ladies that come to see her. They probably love the chat, the youth in Natalie's demeanor and to feel for that space of time, that their hair is the most important thing in the room to that one person. I don't think I could do this. I struggle to cut my scrapbook paper in a straight line and need to be in complete silence to concentrate. However, hairdressers get into their flow and are able to snip away whilst shaping style. Fascinating when you break it down.
So what are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? By figuring out what you really enjoy, will help you find what you are a genius at. Usually when we enjoy something, we are more likely to learn more about it and be passionate to get better. For me my passion is helping people reach their potential as well as learning, sports, teaching and travelling. Nevertheless, some people may not find any satisfaction in those things and get satisfaction in baking, cleaning, crunching numbers, writing, singing, playing music etc. Everyone has a talent, what is yours?
And most of the time, what you can do well can bring something back to someone else and provide them with a service. What do you do on a daily basis that helps someone else?My mum and my aunt are incredible in the care they give my grandfather. They are geniuses of care taking. Making dinners, setting schedule of who is visiting, taking time out to call and ensure care, to sit and speak with my Grandad, and on many occasions, putting his needs before these. Is this not a spark of genius because they don't get paid? does how much you get paid often determine your level of being a genius? To me, the care they give on a daily basis is priceless. Everyone who provides care for another human is invaluable.l
So what are you a genius of? Find what you enjoy and become a genius in that. Make the world a better place by showcasing your talents and letting people see your genius side. Continue to strive to be your best and most of all, enjoy. You are a genius.
Tracy Donachie, MSc in Performance Psychology.